Are You Properly Weighted?

The pendulum kept stopping on my wall clock. I thought maybe I wound it too tight or didn’t wind it enough or often enough. After reading online about what makes a clock run properly I found that I had to adjust the weight on the pendulum. Being balanced is what makes a clock run and keep perfect time.

We humans also need to be “balanced” in order to run properly. Being balanced is a process and a daily journey – not a one-time event. I had to keep tweaking the weight on my clock in order to get it to keep running.

As we begin this new year we make resolutions and goals, but people often set themselves up for defeat as they have no plan or try to change too many things at once or too quickly. Change and achieving balance take time. Tweak just one part of your life today – give thanks for just ONE thing, determine to say ONE kind word to someone, write down ONE thing you hope to accomplish in 2014. Being balanced is about tweaking just one small thing at a time. We will never be perfect and to constantly strive for perfection is pointless. Strive instead for balance. Strive for a steady “tick-tocking” along in life and you will soon find that success begets success and you find yourself feeling balanced and ready for whatever life may bring your way!

2013 in review

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,200 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 20 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

What Are You Waiting For?

It’s seems absurd to me when people say they are waiting for something good or successful to happen in their life when they are doing absolutely nothing to help make it happen. I know this because I used to have that mentality. I’m sorry to say that for a time in my life I lived in a way where I hoped someone would just walk up to me and offer me the perfect, successful career and/or life for which I longed.

As I began to study the lives of successful people I soon learned that nothing could be further from the truth. It would be the same as expecting someone to just show up and fill your car tank with gas and change your oil every 3,000 miles – all while you sit back and watch. Truly successful people live each day with purpose. They don’t sit idly as life passes by.

Anything worth having doesn’t happen by accident. It takes planning, decisions, and hard work. Even if you’re not exactly sure where you are headed at least do something. Start by working on yourself and practicing ways to be thankful, healthy, and thinking on the right things. You only need to do a little each day and the bigger picture will soon become more clear. Every single great success begins with a mere thought. Think about it and then put action behind it.

Life is too short to just keep waiting. Make your life happen today.


What Is Your Perception?

Perception is a funny thing. People tend to perceive other people’s lives as blissfully happy, free of problems, and sailing along effortlessly in the sea of life.

What people don’t see is that those who are genuinely happy, peaceful, successful, and filled with love have worked at it each day and made a conscious effort to achieve those things. They don’t see all the times those people were discouraged or ready to give up yet chose instead to persevere, chose to be thankful, and chose to make better choices.

No one is perfect. No one will ever be perfect. Stop comparing yourself to other people and instead choose to hold yourself to a higher standard – even in just one small way each day. Choose to be thankful today. Choose to focus on the present and choose to make decisions that will help you succeed.


Talk Actually Costs A Lot

I sometimes think the saying should be “talk is easy” instead of “talk is cheap”. It is easy for people to merely SAY anything. Facebook is filled with words stating intentions (diet, resolutions, etc). A new relationship is filled with promises and plenty of words of love and devotion. Starting a new job or venture brings about many lofty words of accomplishments and more promises.

It’s great to have plans and goals but people talk way too much. However, when things don’t work out or go as planned they are suddenly left with nothing but empty words which can often hurt those around them. Be very careful with your words – they can lead to great things or cause great damage.

Talking is the easy part. Back up those words with action and dedication and in the end you will have something that is anything but cheap.


Are You Smelling the Roses?

I was speaking with a woman the other day who in a few sentences proclaimed her plans for her life for the next 15 years. She is currently attending school to become a midwife and her children are 6 and 8. She was telling me how eager she is to be done with school, work as a midwife for 15 years, and then retire so she can spend her days gardening. While it is great and necessary to have plans it was obvious she is spending all of her energy living in the future thereby missing out on today.

Living in the present is difficult at times especially if you are not happy with your present life. There is the tendency to dwell on the past or try to fast-forward to the future. Life holds no guarantees. We are not promised a tomorrow. What you do have this moment and once you determine to savor each moment, make the right choices in this moment, and stay focused on the present your life will drastically change for the better.

Constantly living in the past or in the future only leads to stress and unfulfillment. Taking time to stop and smell the proverbial roses will be just one small step in achieving balance and a sense of calm in your life. Take time to do it NOW.


Do You Have A Gratitude Attitude?

Being thankful is one of the surest ways to reduce stress and develop balance in your everyday life. One of the common threads I’ve noticed among successful people is their attitude of thankfulness. No matter what a person may be experiencing there is always something for which to be thankful.

Having a thankful heart helps you focus on what you have instead of dwelling on what you do not have. It is an exercise of focusing on the present – what you are or what you possess in that moment – and it is very powerful for changing your outlook.

When you start to feel overwhelmed in your life or feel yourself becoming envious, become thankful instead. Be thankful for what you have in the moment and you will be pleased with the level of calm you will soon achieve.

Catch the gratitude attitude and then pass it on!


What Is Your Vision?

Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…”

This is not only a biblical principle but also an important principle both professionally and personally. Every successful business and/or business person has a clearcut vision. If you have no idea what your vision is how will you know where you are headed?

Determine where you want to go and want you want from your life. As you focus on it and implement your goals and plans even a little each day you will eventually get there. This really is a case of practice makes perfect. If you used to have a vision but got sidetracked get back on course. That’s the great thing about life – as long as you have breath in your lungs it is never too late.

Don’t let your plans, dreams, and goals perish. Refocus your vision today.


More Doing, Less Talking

Everyone is filled with good intentions and they love to declare them – on Facebook, Twitter, or to anyone who will listen. Accountability is great but choose a close friend or family member instead of 700 Facebook friends to whom you hold yourself accountable. And instead of continuously talking about it, just do it. Your results and successes will speak far more loudly than merely declaring what you wish to accomplish.

Napoleon Hill said it best: “Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it.”


Be Assertive

There’s an old high school cheer that says “Be aggressive. Be, be aggressive. B-E-A-G-G-R-E-S-S-I-V-E!” Now being aggressive on the football field might be great but being aggressive in your everyday life is a recipe for disaster and eventually leads to a very stressful existence.

Instead you must strive to develop an ability to become assertive. Being assertive means feeling confident, positive, and able to get your point across without blowing up or feeling intimidated.

The best way to be assertive is to focus on living in the present. Stop staying stuck in the past or fretting about the future which only causes you to miss out on today and what needs to be accomplished. When you live this way you begin to dwell in that vicious cycle of giving away your power each day or with each difficult event which ultimately causes stress, anxiety, and lashing out with aggression.

Leave the aggression to the sports field and today try focusing on the present and being assertive.



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