A few weeks ago, I introduced the PULSE© coaching model that I use to help clients get their lives back in balance. The following is a recap: the first letter in the acronym – “P” for paradigm and “U” for unearth. Last week was “L” for Linger.
We have learned over the past few weeks how to shift our Paradigm, Unearth our talents and strengths, and how to Linger in the present.
Now it’s time to Surpass and take our lives to the next level.
Are you ready to move above and beyond the life that you’ve been living? Are you sick and tired of simply existing each day and living your life on auto-pilot?
Surpass toxic thoughts that have held you back. Surpass self-limiting behaviors you exhibit day after day that have kept you stuck and feeling powerless and stressed out.
Surpass: to become better, greater, or stronger than : exceed <surpassed her rivals> <surpassed all expectations>
: to go beyond : overstep
: to transcend the reach, capacity, or powers of <a beauty that surpasses description>
When you make the choice to implement new behaviors and new ways of thinking into your life you do better because you know better. According to author Angel Chernoff, in order to move forward we must give up the following:
1. First and foremost, give up the excuses you keep reciting to yourself.
Because all the excuses and explanations in the world won’t do you any good. They won’t add any value to your life or improve the quality of it by even the slightest margin. To fulfill your calling and get where you wish to go in life requires more than just thinking and talking. These feats require focused and sustained action. You just have to choose to actually do it.
Sooner or later you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have. When you let go of the past, forgive what needs forgiving, and move forward, you in no way change the past, you change the future.
2. Once you’re over the excuses, give up the idea that you don’t have what it takes.
You do have exactly what it takes. Will it be easy? Absolutely not! Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit and continue to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about. So keep going.
In the end, all the small things make a big difference. Every step is crucial. Life isn’t about a single moment of great triumph and attainment. It’s about the trials and errors that slowly get you there – the blood, the sweat, the tears, and the small, inconsequential things you do on a day-to-day basis. It all matters in the end – every step, every regret, every decision, and every affliction.
3. Give up focusing on what’s wrong, and start noticing what’s right.
What you see often depends entirely on what you are looking for. Do your best and surrender the rest. The happiest and most successful people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes. Choosing to be positive and grateful for what you have now is going to determine how you’re going to live the rest of your life. So look for something positive about today. Even if you have to look a little harder than usual, it still exists.
So don’t wait until everything is just right; it will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what! Get started now! With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger. And no matter what happens, just do your best and appreciate what you’re learning. You won’t enjoy your life if you don’t enjoy your challenges.
4. Give up the tendency to get too caught up in other people’s judgments and opinions.
Honestly, the biggest prison you will likely ever live in is your fear of what other people think. You cannot let other people tell you who you are or what you want. You have to decide that for yourself. When you’re making big decisions, remember, what you think of yourself and your life is more important than what people think of you. Don’t let others make you feel guilty for living YOUR life. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, live it YOUR way.
The bottom line is that when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you truly are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.
A Process & A Journey
Surpassing old thoughts and behaviors is a process and a journey. It takes patience. We often want everything to happen overnight. We want results NOW. The exciting part of this coaching model is that you can implement these tools into your life right now. But it still takes practice. It takes perseverance. No one is perfect. No one will ever be perfect. Perfection is not the goal here. Being your BEST self is the goal. Plugging back into your life is the goal.
Once you fully immerse yourself in this process you will begin to surpass – become better, greater, or stronger than you’ve ever been before.
For over a decade Jenny Jacobs has studied the principles of healthy living, life balance, stress management, positive psychology, and self-development. Jenny is a dynamic speaker, coach, and blogger and is passionate about helping people integrate their personal and professional selves.
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